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Have you ever woken up one day and thought, "Why am I in this relationship"? I've had that feeling twice in my life when I was younger. It's a rough feeling and pretty depressing, especially if you have been with that person for quite some time. I mean, this person is what you've always wanted right? Maybe not...
With all of the movies, books and music out there that attempt to construct the most perfect relationship, it skews our view of what a relationship actually is. Like in the article written by Psych Alive titled Why My Relationship Failed, a Fantasy Bond Story, we think that by being inseparable with our loved one is a perfect situation. In all of our dreams and fantasies, we see that perfect person light up our world every possible second they can. The visions of being held through the night while you're clinging to your pillow hoping that mystery person will come soon.
Suddenly, you "bump" into someone and sparks fly! You start talking with each other and quickly get enveloped. The relationship is hot and heavy, every moment is like ecstasy. "This is The One", you think after a few months go by. It has to be. You have everything in common and you can't keep your hands off each other. You two are joined at the hip and go everywhere together. But then a problem arises, reality.
The reality of life is that nothing is perfect, and neither is your relationship. Being together all the time breaks down all forms of communication and eventually nothing new can be talked about. Boredom in the relationship arises. Eventually your head comes out of the clouds and you see the person for who they actually are.
If you're still holding on at this point, you haven't yet realized that the person is probably completely different from what you envisioned. Do they turn you on physically, sure. But what about those things they do that irritate you, or the passions they have that you could care less about? Slowly but surely, those things that you felt you could handle aren't true anymore. On the outside people think it's the perfect relationship, but underneath a storm is brewing. That storm being the truth of your relationship. A fantasy.
Then, that fateful day comes. You wake up and realize this whole relationship was just a dream. You envisioned the whole thing and just put your other half's face on it. The relationship goes down like an avalanche and there you are again, sleeping alone. Or, an even worse thing, staying with the person until it becomes toxic.
This is a viscous cycle and some will never be able to escape the fantasy. Well, now is a time to change. The next person that WOW's you, pull that veil back and look into that person before your dream partner clouds your mind again. Love them for their flaws, not for their perfections. Trying to match anyone up to your fantasy will set you up for failure.
Always remember that nothing is ever perfect; and if it is, run away. Open yourself up and really experience that person. Get to know them and make sure there's space for you two to grow. You never know, that person might just be better than what you could have ever dreamed.
With all of the movies, books and music out there that attempt to construct the most perfect relationship, it skews our view of what a relationship actually is. Like in the article written by Psych Alive titled Why My Relationship Failed, a Fantasy Bond Story, we think that by being inseparable with our loved one is a perfect situation. In all of our dreams and fantasies, we see that perfect person light up our world every possible second they can. The visions of being held through the night while you're clinging to your pillow hoping that mystery person will come soon.
Suddenly, you "bump" into someone and sparks fly! You start talking with each other and quickly get enveloped. The relationship is hot and heavy, every moment is like ecstasy. "This is The One", you think after a few months go by. It has to be. You have everything in common and you can't keep your hands off each other. You two are joined at the hip and go everywhere together. But then a problem arises, reality.
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If you're still holding on at this point, you haven't yet realized that the person is probably completely different from what you envisioned. Do they turn you on physically, sure. But what about those things they do that irritate you, or the passions they have that you could care less about? Slowly but surely, those things that you felt you could handle aren't true anymore. On the outside people think it's the perfect relationship, but underneath a storm is brewing. That storm being the truth of your relationship. A fantasy.
Then, that fateful day comes. You wake up and realize this whole relationship was just a dream. You envisioned the whole thing and just put your other half's face on it. The relationship goes down like an avalanche and there you are again, sleeping alone. Or, an even worse thing, staying with the person until it becomes toxic.
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This is a viscous cycle and some will never be able to escape the fantasy. Well, now is a time to change. The next person that WOW's you, pull that veil back and look into that person before your dream partner clouds your mind again. Love them for their flaws, not for their perfections. Trying to match anyone up to your fantasy will set you up for failure.
Always remember that nothing is ever perfect; and if it is, run away. Open yourself up and really experience that person. Get to know them and make sure there's space for you two to grow. You never know, that person might just be better than what you could have ever dreamed.
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