What Do People Say About You?

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   Most people perk up when their name is being said. It's one of the first words that are taught to us from birth and one of the essential links to our identity. The psychology on our name spans from relationships to sales. We like it when people call us by our name, because we inherently want to be remembered. But what about conversations people have about you? 


   A study from NCBI called Brain Activation When Hearing One's Own and Others' Names stated, "There is unique brain activation specific to one's own name in relation to the names of others". In sales, you recognize that people are inwardly selfish and respond better when you know their name and let them talk about themselves. So, when a friend or colleague tells you that they were talking about you to someone else, you want to know what they said.  

How Tinder is Changing the Way We Date

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Found on Coed (Edited Name Out)
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   As my girlfriend and I walked into the community room to play some pool, two neighbors were downstairs in a lengthy conversation on their love life. The conversation revolved around the neighbor who is 19 and spoke about his 7 day stretch of love and loss. 

   The start of the dating site revolution moved mountains. After putting in your information of your likes, dislikes and passions you were able to find a match for someone in your area instantly. There were people that matched that went to the same grocery store and lived down the road from each other, but never had the chance to meet because they worked all the time. I signed on to the revolution and found a girl on eHarmony when I was 20.

   I find it fascinating albeit scary, at the adverse affect that these newer dating apps have brought. Apps like Tinder have taken out the aspect of chemistry and have delved into the superficial act of swiping left or right based on looks and probability of hooking up.

Found on Wikipedia
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   What scares me the most is the lack of investment into an intimate relationship, especially in the millennials. Stories like the one we heard yesterday is commonplace. 

   Two people swipe left and right for hours until they find a few matches. They go on dates with a few and find THE ONE that blows their socks off. They post cute stuff on Facebook to each other and start the process of making it "official" by changing their status. Passions are hot and heavy, and they feel that they couldn't live without that person...

   Then a week or two passes and they hit that point where they actually have to talk to each other. They find out that they don't have everything in common and push away. They break up, put up sad posts to get sympathy and go back on Tinder as an "Independent Person looking for a good time". 

   No one wants to work for a relationship anymore. In a world with instant gratification thrown at you left and right, people walk away once the first roadblock comes up. "I can find someone better" or "I can say what I want, there's more girls/guys out there that are like this one". Within a decade we have completely transformed the thought process of a generation and have jeopardized the whole ideology of a monogamous relationship. 

   Well, for the Utopian lovers out there, we're getting closer to the search for perfection in everything. This is the age of Platonic Dating. Your relationships are not safe anymore.

     Brad Slaughter is a Co-Owner of Try-Fun Fitness & Training, Writer for Inside My Inquisitive Mind, Producer, Entrepreneur and trained in Social Media Marketing By Corsera. 

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